"Expectation is the root of all Disappointment"
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
Saturday, July 16, 2011
What is true love?
Though I still don't have a computer (still broken), I decided I could do a little post about something I started thinking about again earlier today: True Love.
Over the past couple of years I came to believe two.. let's call them "truths".
Truth #1: When one truly loves a person, that person will forever occupy a part of ones heart, no matter what. The feelings might lessen, but it will never completely cede.
Truth #2: In order to love a person, the heart must be free of any kind of intense feelings for someone else. Because one cannot give their heart completely to one person while longing/missing/still thinking about somebody else.
Now if you add these two 'truths' together, I concluded that one can only fall in love once because if you love one person and they will always occupy a part of your heart, then one will never have a 'pure' heart to give to somebody else. Makes sense?
Now I don't know if this could change over time, as we all change and we learn to ignore certain feelings we might have had for somebody in the past. Or if we can actually 'fall out of love'. Or does love, or a type of obsession we might call love, make us blind and we can always be caught in a persons net, making the relationship and the other person (maybe even ourselves) into something they're really not, because we want it to be that so badly*. Only time will tell....
On that note I will also share my favorite quote ;)
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."-- Corinthians 13:1-13
Friday, June 10, 2011
Thursday, June 9, 2011
Thursday: I am Woman
I love the lyrics to this song.. Even though I think even more could be done with this song. All of the versions I've heard so far just seem too -- I don't know -- soft.... Jennifer Hudson or Whitney Houston for example should make a version of this song.
I am woman, hear me roarIn numbers too big to ignore. And I know too much to go back an' pretend, ''Cause I've heard it all before. And I've been down there on the floor. No one's ever gonna keep me down again.
Oh yes, I am wise, but it's wisdom born of pain. Yes, I've paid the price, but look how much I gained! If I have to, I can do anything. I am strong (strong), I am invincible (invincible), I am woman.
You can bend but never break me. 'Cause it only serves to make me. More determined to achieve my final goal. And I come back even stronger. Not a novice any longer. 'Cause you've deepened the conviction in my soul.
Oh, yes, I am wise, but it's wisdom born of pain. Yes, I've paid the price, but look how much I gained. If I have to, I can face anything. I am strong (strong), I am invincible (invincible), I am woman.
I am woman watch me grow. See me standing toe to toe. As I spread my lovin' arms across the land. But I'm still an embryo, with a long, long way to go. Until I make my brother understand.
Oh, yes, I am wise, but it's wisdom born of pain. Yes, I've paid the price, but look how much I gained. If I have to, I can face anything. I am strong (strong), I am invincible (invincible), I am woman.
Oh, I am woman, I am invincible, I am strong.
I am woman, I am invincible, I am strong, I am woman.
Wednesday, June 8, 2011
News
Update:
Got my results for the Sorbonne exams back and I passed! =D
Graduation on Saturdayyyyy (I know...isn't it hilarious that there's an actual graduation ceremony with gowns and shit???!!)
Tuesday, June 7, 2011
May the week of empowering songs start
I have decided to make this the week of the best self-empowering and motivational songs. So here is the Tuesday song. Again, a song I relate strongly to, give it up for a classic: Christina Aguilera -- Fighter
Still Ridin' Solo =D
After a year of listening to this song, it is still one of my favorites. It's just plain genius -- spinning something awful into something awesome. The best songs are always the ones you associate something personal with, the ones you relate to..like the one I posted yesterday, or this one. I mean just listening to the lyrics, I feel like every line describes my life and how I feel: solo, awesome, alive, free, with my head in the sky, loving my life, spreading my wings, getting/having my shit together, and uhmmmm whatttt?? Oh yeah, that's right...being SOLO! =P
Sunday, June 5, 2011
Haters: friend or foe?
Now I know that I haven't been writing for a couple of days and I got a lovely message from a lovely person the other day saying: "wo bleiben deine posts???? du vernachlässigst deine leser & haters ;)" But, my dear readers & haters, I had a virus on my computer which left my it out of order for a week, so I offer my sincere apologies ;)
Moving on to the topic of this post: Haters. Last week, on one of my last posts about weight issues, dieting etc I received some feedback that was quite negative towards my blog. Quite frankly, I didn't give a shit (even though the insecurities mentioned in my very first post resurfaced for a brief moment), but what's more important is that it made me think about haters and the effect they have on us.
I mean, let's be real: We all hate haters. They make us feel bad about ourselves, don't appreciate what we do or always try to downplay our success and never seem to be happy for us even once. They are all little green men and women that tirelessly judge us in a negative way, pick, nip and nag and it seems like it makes them feel big and powerful to criticize other people trying to bring them down for whatever reason. The world would be so much more peaceful without haters.
Or would it? In reality, if we reeeaaaallyyyyyy think about it, aren't haters actually the ones that keep us going? Subconsciously don't let us settle for anything less than the maximum of what we could achieve...A sort of motivation, being the critics that we really need to improve or see our faults because nobody else is going to tell you what they really think or feel, trying to not hurt your feelings? Aren't they the ones that we can actually not really rely on? And once those haters can't really think of decent things to criticize anymore and start attacking you on the little and really irrelevant things, then isn't that the real feeling of gratification arteher than somebody who's been saying all the positive stuff all along?*
Of course, if we are fortunate enough to have a couple of friends that are going to tell us what they honestly think, then we can consider our selves lucky, but in general hat's only about 5% of our friends. I do catch myself sometimes being very negative towards people I care about because I believe that they can do better. Then again it's all about our own attitude towards ourselves and how we want to be perceived. How do we take criticism? Are we going to accept it and try to work productively with it, or are we just going to be ignorant and keep on doing with what we were doing? How much criticism is healthy and when is it enough?? Are we going to take it personally? And then there are of course those haters that are really pointless, where you just think to yourself "uuuhhmmm okay uuh and now? What was the point?" (for example my dear hater mentioned above) who just say things for whatever reasons, like a pinched male ego or I don't even know. And the funniest thing bout the whole irony of haters is that they hate to bring you down, and actually do the opposite.. irony much?
I think that for me personally I found a good balance between how much "feedback" I let sink in, and what not, but then again what do I know? =P
So, THANK YOU, ALL OF YOU NEGATIVE PEOPLE OUT THERE, for being jackasses and making us better people and to give everybody a reason to hate as well....
ATTENTION: THIS THEORY DOES NOT APPLY TO FAMILY MEMBERS/MOTHERS!!!! Here it only has the effect of being purely annoying and frustrating.
*For example at the restaurant where I work, we all deal with the stress differently; some sing, I dance, whatever, no big deal. We do have others though that are quite negatively tuned. They think they are the shit, or at least act like it, and as soon as they get a chance they start to channel all of their stress into negative energy, yelling at others for no apparent reason, just being bitches (for the record by now, as I've gotten used to it, I don't even take them or what they say serious anymore) but, my point being, one is doing a decent job, and not making big mistakes anymore and they try to find other things for which they can bitch at you, the salt and pepper are still on the table while the customers are having their dessert, the wine glasses are held the wrong way, or even that the receipt was brought to the table facing up or down...you get the drift.....
Moving on to the topic of this post: Haters. Last week, on one of my last posts about weight issues, dieting etc I received some feedback that was quite negative towards my blog. Quite frankly, I didn't give a shit (even though the insecurities mentioned in my very first post resurfaced for a brief moment), but what's more important is that it made me think about haters and the effect they have on us.
I mean, let's be real: We all hate haters. They make us feel bad about ourselves, don't appreciate what we do or always try to downplay our success and never seem to be happy for us even once. They are all little green men and women that tirelessly judge us in a negative way, pick, nip and nag and it seems like it makes them feel big and powerful to criticize other people trying to bring them down for whatever reason. The world would be so much more peaceful without haters.
Or would it? In reality, if we reeeaaaallyyyyyy think about it, aren't haters actually the ones that keep us going? Subconsciously don't let us settle for anything less than the maximum of what we could achieve...A sort of motivation, being the critics that we really need to improve or see our faults because nobody else is going to tell you what they really think or feel, trying to not hurt your feelings? Aren't they the ones that we can actually not really rely on? And once those haters can't really think of decent things to criticize anymore and start attacking you on the little and really irrelevant things, then isn't that the real feeling of gratification arteher than somebody who's been saying all the positive stuff all along?*
Of course, if we are fortunate enough to have a couple of friends that are going to tell us what they honestly think, then we can consider our selves lucky, but in general hat's only about 5% of our friends. I do catch myself sometimes being very negative towards people I care about because I believe that they can do better. Then again it's all about our own attitude towards ourselves and how we want to be perceived. How do we take criticism? Are we going to accept it and try to work productively with it, or are we just going to be ignorant and keep on doing with what we were doing? How much criticism is healthy and when is it enough?? Are we going to take it personally? And then there are of course those haters that are really pointless, where you just think to yourself "uuuhhmmm okay uuh and now? What was the point?" (for example my dear hater mentioned above) who just say things for whatever reasons, like a pinched male ego or I don't even know. And the funniest thing bout the whole irony of haters is that they hate to bring you down, and actually do the opposite.. irony much?
I think that for me personally I found a good balance between how much "feedback" I let sink in, and what not, but then again what do I know? =P
So, THANK YOU, ALL OF YOU NEGATIVE PEOPLE OUT THERE, for being jackasses and making us better people and to give everybody a reason to hate as well....
ATTENTION: THIS THEORY DOES NOT APPLY TO FAMILY MEMBERS/MOTHERS!!!! Here it only has the effect of being purely annoying and frustrating.
*For example at the restaurant where I work, we all deal with the stress differently; some sing, I dance, whatever, no big deal. We do have others though that are quite negatively tuned. They think they are the shit, or at least act like it, and as soon as they get a chance they start to channel all of their stress into negative energy, yelling at others for no apparent reason, just being bitches (for the record by now, as I've gotten used to it, I don't even take them or what they say serious anymore) but, my point being, one is doing a decent job, and not making big mistakes anymore and they try to find other things for which they can bitch at you, the salt and pepper are still on the table while the customers are having their dessert, the wine glasses are held the wrong way, or even that the receipt was brought to the table facing up or down...you get the drift.....
Thursday, May 26, 2011
How to get Abs in 1 Minute hahahahahahaha
How to get Abs in one Minute --- Just a follow up on yesterday's post ;)
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
To Diet, or not to Diet: That is the Question
So I never had an issue with my weight or my figure until a couple of months ago when my doctor told me to watch out a little bit. And being here in Paris, where everyone seems to be skinny and skinnier, I figured it was time for a change. But I've never watched my weight before, let alone gone to the gym on a regular basis, so how do you lose weight? What is a healthy diet? How much am I supposed to work out? What machines and what muscles am I supposed to work? How do I track, other than on the scale, if I'm getting somewhere? And how do I measure my bodyfat correctly? Is there a way to diet without really dieting? Is it enough to just eat healthy? And s what I'm doing right now really that unhealthy? Plus, there's a luring bakery or patisserie at every corner... Do I need to ignore it every day?? So many questions and temptations, and not really one person that could give me the break down for dummies, because as I said; if I ever felt like chocolate double fudge cake with whipped cream and vanilla sauce, I never thought about eating it twice. Everyone I talk to is telling me something different so how do I know who to listen to? I could get a book, but which one is the one that'll work for me? I mean have you ever been to the "health" section in Barnes &Nobles? Hello?! How does one not get overwhelmed and confused???!! So I started some sort of a diet, but I still feel like I have no clue what I'm doing. So the other night I stumbled upon this first article which I found to be quite interesting, and throught that article on this book page. Would this be worth trying out? Or is it a waste of money? Title sounds promising. Description sounds promising. But who knows if it's not just marketing and good advertising/manipulation? Fascinating. Oh, how I wish I just had some guru who knows exactly what I have to do to get in shape again without muffin tops, love handles so that I may fit into my pants again properly...you be damned delicious french food!
The Article:
http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/health/5-...
Losing weight isn’t about eating less, it’s about eating more—more nutrition-dense food, to crowd out the empty calories and keep you full all day. That’s important, because restricting food will kill your metabolism. It sends a signal to your body that says, “I’m starving here!” And your body responds by slowing your metabolic rate in order to hold onto existing energy stores. What’s worse, if the food shortage (meaning, your crash diet) continues, you’ll begin burning muscle tissue, which just gives your enemy, visceral fat, a greater advantage. Your metabolism drops even more, and fat goes on to claim even more territory. Here are some no-brainer ways to motivate your metabolism to burn more fat.
And the Trap:
P.S.:Ironically I'm stuffing my face with cornflakes while writing this post....just thougth I should point that out.
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
To be is to be perceived
George Berkley:
Can a tree fall over if there is nobody present to observe it? Objects only exist, while they are being perceived.
Android Tablet Comparison: A new Toy!
So for months now I have been wanting to get one of these Tablet PC's. I mean it would be so much easier with one of these than to always having to carry your lap top around. Now of course I have done some research and I found this table that kind of compares all of the Tablets that come with the OS Android Honeycomb 3.0, which was specifically designed and created for the bigger screens of tablets. Now here are my thoughts: Eee Pad MeMo is too small, so is the HTC flyer so they are already out. Motorola Xoom, LG Optimus Pad, the Galaxy Tab 10.1 and maybe even the Toshiba Tablet or Eee Pad Slider are too expensive. Which leaves the Acer A500 and the Eee Pad Transformer.
Now both tablets have some pros and cons:
The Acer A500 has no keyboard available but does have USB directly on it. I think the keyboard is vital though, and it does not seem like they are going to be developing one for the Acer in the near future. It has more memory space than the Transformer, but that can be varied with SD cards so this isn't anything too major. Battery life is 8hrs+8hrs on the Transformer and 10hrs on the Acer. In terms of the price, they seem to be in about the same range, though according to my research, Amazon and co. are not the way to go here as they sell the Eee Pad like $200 more expensive than other sites like newegg.com.
Conclusion: If I have to name one that I prefer, I think it would be the Transformer, not only because it has a sleeker design, but because it has the keyboard available, not only making typing so much easier, but also because it extends the battery life...
Now both tablets have some pros and cons:
The Acer A500 has no keyboard available but does have USB directly on it. I think the keyboard is vital though, and it does not seem like they are going to be developing one for the Acer in the near future. It has more memory space than the Transformer, but that can be varied with SD cards so this isn't anything too major. Battery life is 8hrs+8hrs on the Transformer and 10hrs on the Acer. In terms of the price, they seem to be in about the same range, though according to my research, Amazon and co. are not the way to go here as they sell the Eee Pad like $200 more expensive than other sites like newegg.com.
Conclusion: If I have to name one that I prefer, I think it would be the Transformer, not only because it has a sleeker design, but because it has the keyboard available, not only making typing so much easier, but also because it extends the battery life...
Monday, May 23, 2011
Movies and Music: La Joie de Vivre
Yesterday, Sunday, I went to see Midnight in Paris with a friend of mine to kind of take the edge off a little bit after last week... and I must say, if you haven't seen this movie yet and like it a little bit exaggerated and satirical, GO SEE IT! It was so entertaining with such witty, sarcastic and subtle insinuations to art works, literature or even politics that I found it highly amusing. It has definitely made it among some of my favorite movies and I think I might just go and watch it again. I do admit, my expectations were not too high of it just because of how much I adore Paris, I figured it would just be an understatement of its amazingness (I know that that's not a word!) and I mainly wanted to go see it because I had met one of the actors in the movie (whose scenes were quite short, but oh well..) but already the first couple of shots were so corny and true to reality, it is definitely an appreciation of the city's beauty. And the coolest part was that most of the time I was like: Oh, I know where that is! Hey, that's my bakery! Yeeeaaaahh my street!!! Yuuuupppppp...I'm on that bridge every day.. The movie absolutely caught my adoration for the unreality of the phenominality of Paris. I could really relate to it and to some of the things that were being said about Paris, for example that it's all a little bit unreal and phantasylike. Or how the lights of the city are so bright, they can see them on Mars and that the world is in Paris (or something along those lines...). But it wasn't just the whole Paris-is-awesome message of the movie that made me like it so much. The message that we humans are never satisfied with what we have really touched me. How true! We're always longing for something else, never happy, even when what we have is great -- we're insatiable. It's sad, but so true :(
=> http://www.59rivoli.org/
And obviously there is also a romantic storyline, nibbling on the issue of do we really love the person we're with or do we just think we're in love with them? How do you know when it's right, or better yet, when it's not right?
But I don't want to spoil the movie or say too much if there's a person who' reading this, who hasn't yet seen the movie and wants to see it.... ;)
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| Jazz Festival at 59Rivoli |
Another cultural event that has been going on this weekend was the Festival de Jazz: All over Paris were different little free jazz concerts. My friend and I went to this stunning exhibition/concert after the movies, with such inspiring art, if you ever want to see art that deals with all kinds of different topics, with such an interesting mix of media, light, paint, collages, photography, metal, statues, glass, barbie dolls.. you name it, go to the 59 Rivoli (59 Rue de Rivoli, 75001 Paris, France) which is open every Mon-Sat and is truly worth a visit.
Which leads me to my last point: One reason why I love Paris so much because there is always something gong on. There is so much life, and so much joy in living. It makes you want to go out and do things. People are outside in the parks when it's remotely warm and the sun is shining, and then this weekend was this festival for example, then Saturday was some carnival in the streets with dancing and music, free concerts, people hanging out and dancing and singing on the Pont des Arts, street artists like magicians, dancers, musicians trying to earn some money with their talents, bars and cafes are crowded until late in the night in the middle of the week or little art exhibitions in galleries and museums everywhere..It's so uplifting and colorful! Simply fabulous =)
The first group of the Carnival dancers:
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Monday, May 16, 2011
Time to ask yourself: "What do I want?"
I recently watched the movie The Women and this is an excerpt from a conversation from the, I guess, turning point of the whole story:

Even though I thought the movie as a whole was kind of dull, this part really touched me because it is a little bit how I feel at times and got me thinking once again: What do I really want?
I feel like this question in itself almost symbolizes my time here in Paris, and why I came here; to try to really figure out who I am, and to see what I can do when I'm on my own. See where I can go. Take some time for myself and focus on doing just me. This is why I had sworn to myself that I would not for example become emotionally attached or dependent on a guy while I am here. No distractions. Be selfish, not having to care about anybody else, not having to take care of anybody else other than me. And I have to say that it feels so damn good -- so liberating! It makes me walk around in the streets just smiling to myself or wanting to get up in the morning and go jogging when the sun rises (yes, I admit that I have been slacking in that department that but I will pick up on it again, and the motivation is there).
My point is, sometimes we need to take a break from everything. I became stronger, more confident, more independent, and so much prouder. I used to always bend over backwards and turning upside down to please everybody else, making the people that I thought were important to me my absolute priority (for instance friends, my last boyfriend etc) and I would have done anything and everything for them. But I lost myself while doing that. I had a conversation with a friend of mine last night about friendships and the rules of relationships, and basically he was saying that he pours his heart into any kind of relationship, but as soon as the other person doesn't make the same amount of effort he just shuts them out. And at first I thought that that's absolutely ruthless and absurd and that people aren't perfect and that his expectations are just too high. How do you just go from one extreme to the other? How can that be a real friendship and not just superficial? That as soon as there's an imperfection, you're out. But the more I think about it, the more it makes sense: It all comes down to respect that you have for yourself. If you continuously let somebody else disrespect you and your "friendship" by not putting in the same effort, then there is a certain imbalance. What kind of a relationship (and I'm talking about any kind of relationship) is it when there is an imbalance? If you give more than you are getting back, then you are not only being disrespected/unappreciated by the other person, but mostly you're just disrespecting yourself because you're settling for less than what you deserve. When are we going to stop making excuses for other people? Is it having a generous and forgiving heart or is it actually just being naive and needy? Is it possible to be both, forgiving and proud?
He also said, and I quote: "I don't have a problem being by myself. I don't need to be around somebody or have someones approval to be happy", and I truly admire that.
The conclusion here being, that I need to be comfortable with who I am as a person, and to respect myself and do what I want, and not to compromise my dignity/values/morals for someone or even something (like a job) because at the end of the day it's my life. And I am the one who has to be happy, and our time is too short to rely on anybody other than yourself for happiness.*
To remind myself of that every day, I will dedicate a wall to my dreams and aspirations, kind of like the one Mary made in the movie. There's a wall that is right next to my bathroom door and I think it would be perfect. we'll see...
*This all being said and to avoid any misunderstandings: I think forgiveness is important, believing in the good in people is important, and to leave the past in the past is important. Not need to be(come) a bitch!

Even though I thought the movie as a whole was kind of dull, this part really touched me because it is a little bit how I feel at times and got me thinking once again: What do I really want?
I feel like this question in itself almost symbolizes my time here in Paris, and why I came here; to try to really figure out who I am, and to see what I can do when I'm on my own. See where I can go. Take some time for myself and focus on doing just me. This is why I had sworn to myself that I would not for example become emotionally attached or dependent on a guy while I am here. No distractions. Be selfish, not having to care about anybody else, not having to take care of anybody else other than me. And I have to say that it feels so damn good -- so liberating! It makes me walk around in the streets just smiling to myself or wanting to get up in the morning and go jogging when the sun rises (yes, I admit that I have been slacking in that department that but I will pick up on it again, and the motivation is there).
My point is, sometimes we need to take a break from everything. I became stronger, more confident, more independent, and so much prouder. I used to always bend over backwards and turning upside down to please everybody else, making the people that I thought were important to me my absolute priority (for instance friends, my last boyfriend etc) and I would have done anything and everything for them. But I lost myself while doing that. I had a conversation with a friend of mine last night about friendships and the rules of relationships, and basically he was saying that he pours his heart into any kind of relationship, but as soon as the other person doesn't make the same amount of effort he just shuts them out. And at first I thought that that's absolutely ruthless and absurd and that people aren't perfect and that his expectations are just too high. How do you just go from one extreme to the other? How can that be a real friendship and not just superficial? That as soon as there's an imperfection, you're out. But the more I think about it, the more it makes sense: It all comes down to respect that you have for yourself. If you continuously let somebody else disrespect you and your "friendship" by not putting in the same effort, then there is a certain imbalance. What kind of a relationship (and I'm talking about any kind of relationship) is it when there is an imbalance? If you give more than you are getting back, then you are not only being disrespected/unappreciated by the other person, but mostly you're just disrespecting yourself because you're settling for less than what you deserve. When are we going to stop making excuses for other people? Is it having a generous and forgiving heart or is it actually just being naive and needy? Is it possible to be both, forgiving and proud?
He also said, and I quote: "I don't have a problem being by myself. I don't need to be around somebody or have someones approval to be happy", and I truly admire that.
The conclusion here being, that I need to be comfortable with who I am as a person, and to respect myself and do what I want, and not to compromise my dignity/values/morals for someone or even something (like a job) because at the end of the day it's my life. And I am the one who has to be happy, and our time is too short to rely on anybody other than yourself for happiness.*
To remind myself of that every day, I will dedicate a wall to my dreams and aspirations, kind of like the one Mary made in the movie. There's a wall that is right next to my bathroom door and I think it would be perfect. we'll see...
*This all being said and to avoid any misunderstandings: I think forgiveness is important, believing in the good in people is important, and to leave the past in the past is important. Not need to be(come) a bitch!
Friday, May 13, 2011
Who can spot the Louboutin?
I admit it, I enjoy watching all those American series full of drama and the so called glamorous lifestyle. Especially when I need to take some time off from the real world, I enjoy plunging into the fake, absurd, and unrealistic TV-world of some of my favourites Sex and the City (although I think this one is still the most realistic one out of the bunch), Desperate Housewives, The Vampire Diaries, Greys Anatomy, Lie to Me, Body of Proof, and when I’m hanging really low 90210, Keeping up with the Kardashians or Pretty Little Liars. Now one thing that I noticed in pretty much all of these shows, with a couple of exceptions like Pretty Little Liars or The Vampire Diaries, is that obviously all of the outfits are amazing, but the stylists don’t seem to bee very creative with the shoes. I mean I do spot a couple of Jimmy Choo’s or Manolo Blahniks here and there but one make seems to be the most persistent: Christian Louboutins. Yes, they are beautiful and sexy and what not, but if we’re being honest, most people who watch these shows have no idea that they are Louboutins or Target. Unless the name of the make is actually pointed out or they are really extravagant and eye-catching. But it seems like the stylists put so much work into the outfits and then they’re like: “hmmm alright I’m getting tired and want to go home, but I’m still missing the shoes. Oh I know! One can never go wrong with Christian Louboutin! ‘Aight peace out”. And then they have a gorgeous black peep-toe high heel, which is half covered by jeans. Seems to me like it’s almost a waste of a choo... And what happens to the shoes after the episode is shot? The shoe goes into an archive and is pulled for one more scene three months later? With Gossip Girl or Sex and the City, where outfits are analyzed to the last little hair accessory on blogs and magazines I get it. But with shows that already tend to have a lower budget like Body of Proof I just don’t get the point? In reality shows it makes sense: the cameras are following stars like the Kardashians in their “everyday life” and they have an image to uphold. Don’t get me wrong though! I’m not complaining; I love the little who-can-spot-it game but some variety wouldn’t hurt any of them, if not make it more interesting. Alright I’m starting to ramble so I’ll stop and dream a little daydream of shoes ;)
Thursday, May 12, 2011
Wednesday, May 11, 2011
Less is not always more..
As we're approaching the summer months and it's getting hotter outside, all those posters with models showing off their skinny bodies in next-to-nothing bikinis start to appear in the vitrines. Same old same old bikinis in forms of triangles and ones without straps. Black, red, white or completely colorful. striped, dotted, I even saw one made of denim the other day! It seems like everything has been done, so what does the fashion world do? Bring back something from a longtime ago that was considered to be "out" and make it "in". After all, the bikini has been quite popular since the 1940's so it's time to shake things up a little bit. So if we do look a little bit closer in the stores we notice that the old one-piece swimsuit has crept back into our ranks (and I'm not talking about those wannabe one-pieces that came back about three years ago as bikinis where the top and the bottom are connected by a couple of strings or two two-inch pieces of fabric. I'm talking real one-pieces, that cover up the stomach completely and actually look good.
Now I am happy about this for several reasons, as I do not like wearing bikinis:
- I don't like it when people see me in my underwear, and to me there is not much difference between a bra and panties and a bikini
- I feel like one's body should be respected and appreciated, and I do not feel like I am doing so by running around as good as naked in public. Leave something up to imagination!
- Not everybody has to see me in a certain way. I believe that that should be reserved for a special someone and it makes it just the more special
- Come on! We've been wearing the same triangle top bikini since we were twelve!! It's time for a change ;)
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| Lanvin Spring/Summer 2011 Michael Kors Spring/Summer 2011 |
A lot of people probably don't even notice the old-newcomer on the shelves but as someone who looked desperately for a decent swimsuit not only in the States but also in Germany, Italy and Greece. And the number that I found that were kind of alright and not too grandma-ish and in my pricerange waaaaassss -- drummroll -- TWO! At first I obviously felt very unsexy in my swimsuits and weird because I had never been wearing a one-piece at the beach, especially never been the only one under 40 that was wearing one. But eventually I got used to it and now I'm proud to have followed my values and emancipated myself from the big crowd. And I'm telling you! ONE-PIECES ARE MAKING A COMEBACK!! And brace yourselves ladies, they are not the kind that we had to wear for our 7th grade swim p.e. class...Still doubtful? Just take a look at the Spring/Summer Fashion Weeks of 2011: Lanvin, Antonio Marras, DKNY, Michael Kors and Marc by Marc Jacobs.. all of them showed at least one one-piece in their collections. And for the rest of us, who can't afford the designer swimsuit there are all the waaaayyyy cheaper department and chain stores with really cute/sexy swimsuits available to us!
I put some of my favourites that I've seen so far into the little slideshow below (and fyi all of them cost max. 30EUR)
Quote of the day:
I stumbled upon this today and I absolutely had to repost it. It speaks for itself but this is exactly what we need to remind ourselves of every day of our life. Stay classy, proud and to never settle for anything less than the best. We are all confronted with all kind of shit every day: getting attitudes from people we may or may not know, dealing with the bitchy boss or co-worker, or a sneaky/backstabbing friend... it is so tempting to just take the easy way out and quit or snap and lose your temper for something that's not worth it or to take or do something because it's "less trouble" -- the so called "safe" way.
But at the end of the day, is that what is going to make us happy? Be with a person because it's comfortable and reassuring to have someone there but not because we love them or can't imagine to be without them? Or take disrespect, put it in our pocket and ignore it and not stand up for ourselves??! I think you know the answer to that already..
Ladies, please take this quote and write these wise words on your mirror or on the background of your cell-phone, because believe me, it is sooooo easy to forget this rule, especially when it get's hard and I realized one thing a couple of months ago, which changed my life: you are not going to make your dreams happen if you don't respect yourself and have confidence that if you work hard enough, you will achieve them, even if it may take some time (I'm not saying be full of yourself, I'm saying be confident BIG DIFFERENCE! But that shall be for another time).
Everyone deserves to live their dream, but one has to believe in oneself first.
Tuesday, May 10, 2011
Sunday, May 8, 2011
The little story behind my username..
Soooo.... While I'm at it I might as well write a second post about the alias "MadonnaMona" :
My real name is Mona. Many people always call me Mona Lisa (duh..) but what many people are unaware of is that "Mona" is actually a common Italian contraction for "madonna" or "ma donna" which means madam or my lady. So originally the painting was called Madonna Lisa (Lady Lisa) and was later abbreviated to the now oh so famous title Mona Lisa.
When I heard about this I thought it was pretty cool and since the username Madonna is always already taken I figured MadonnaMona would do the job as well, and turns out: I seem to never have any competition for it :)
P.S.: Other meanings of the name "Mona" are ...
... Arabic -- the wished for/wish/desire
... Gaelic/English -- Little noble one; also in Old English -- Moon
... Sanskrit -- alone/unique
... Greek -- solitary/one/royal
... Persian -- the name of a God, derives from Mana (who lasts forever)
... Spanish -- cute/adorable/female monkey/tipsy
... Teutonic -- loner
... Irish -- noble woman
... peaceful
... and finally in ancient Venetian it means gorgeous/beautiful (for women) and stupid/idiot (for men)
... Gaelic/English -- Little noble one; also in Old English -- Moon
... Sanskrit -- alone/unique
... Greek -- solitary/one/royal
... Persian -- the name of a God, derives from Mana (who lasts forever)
... Spanish -- cute/adorable/female monkey/tipsy
... Teutonic -- loner
... Irish -- noble woman
... peaceful
... and finally in ancient Venetian it means gorgeous/beautiful (for women) and stupid/idiot (for men)
Saturday, May 7, 2011
Blog-Deflowered
So this is my first blog post ever. When blogging first started to become popular a couple of years ago, I swore to myself that I would never be so self absorbed and think that anyone would actually give a shit about what I have to say and write a blog. I figured that nobody was actually take the time to read this anyways and that it would just be embarrassing and not worth the trouble. Obviously I changed my mind.. Facebook is alright, but it's really starting to get on my nerves and I rarely ever use it anymore (except to do the occasional stalk-investigation on someone I have a crush on of course), Twitter just seems unnecessary (I just don't see the point in putting all of your business out there at all times without going in depth; and I have far better things to do than to spend a lot of time reading all of these tweets and frankly don't care enough).
What's left that I haven't tried? Yup, blogging. I figured that it could be an interesting way to document my experiences and elaborate on some thoughts a little bit. I mean, evidently this is not going to be as intimate as my diary but I think it could be a medium a little less obnoxious and more personal than facebook in terms of putting your stuff out there. If there's only one person that is going to read this, then it is going to be my mom, who is actually the person for whom I am mostly doing this. MOM, I LOVE YOU =P
Now, what is this blog going to be about? Good question... I don't want to give it a label and then do something completely different. So I'm just going to post mostly about things that make me smile, dream or wonder. I guess I'll be posting entries about life, society, fashion, boys, Paris and all sorts of questions that pop into my head (examples / future post-ideas: What really is a relationship? What is fear? If everyone is doing it then there must be something to it, right?)
This is the great thing about blogs.. it seems like you have nearly endless possiblities!
Alrighty then.. Let's get to it and see where we are in, say, a couple of months? And if I actually stuck with this. For everyone who isn't my mom, if there is anyone, I hope I don't bore you too much! ;)
What's left that I haven't tried? Yup, blogging. I figured that it could be an interesting way to document my experiences and elaborate on some thoughts a little bit. I mean, evidently this is not going to be as intimate as my diary but I think it could be a medium a little less obnoxious and more personal than facebook in terms of putting your stuff out there. If there's only one person that is going to read this, then it is going to be my mom, who is actually the person for whom I am mostly doing this. MOM, I LOVE YOU =P
Now, what is this blog going to be about? Good question... I don't want to give it a label and then do something completely different. So I'm just going to post mostly about things that make me smile, dream or wonder. I guess I'll be posting entries about life, society, fashion, boys, Paris and all sorts of questions that pop into my head (examples / future post-ideas: What really is a relationship? What is fear? If everyone is doing it then there must be something to it, right?)
This is the great thing about blogs.. it seems like you have nearly endless possiblities!
Alrighty then.. Let's get to it and see where we are in, say, a couple of months? And if I actually stuck with this. For everyone who isn't my mom, if there is anyone, I hope I don't bore you too much! ;)
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